A series of interviews examining the concept of radical love. Exploring what that may look like across a myriad of relationships. Our inspiration comes from bell hooks’ incredible book, All About Love, wherein she details the kind of love that solidifies not just our relationships, but also what brings our communities together. Our hope is to spread positivity and help bring to the forefront all of the different ways love presents itself in our lives.We asked our AGMES community to share what love means to them, the role it plays in their sense of purpose and how it’s expressed through their relationships.
Sissy Chacon is a content creator, stylist & creative consultant & Eddie Chacon is a musician.
We’ve long admired their beautiful approach to life and creative expression.
WHAT IS RADICAL LOVE TO YOU?
SISSY To me radical love means completely surrendering to something with a devotion that deepens and expands in every moment and an intention that sparks light, joy and wholeness in every direction.
EDDIE I would say absolutely 100% unconditional love and support throughout all chapters of your journey together is radical love to me.
DESCRIBE YOUR LOVE
SISSY I’d say we celebrate our love all day every day like it’s the air we breathe. Our approach to a loving relationship is pretty much second nature now. We intend to have a long, happy healthy life together forever. We only behave in ways toward one another that ensure this - with kindness.
HOW IS YOUR NOTION OF LOVE DIFFERENT TO "NORMAL EXPECTATIONS" OF LOVE?
SISSY I hardly know what the normal expectation of love is anymore. I feel like so much of what is called love is conditional love. Is that really love? Dedication , devotion, duty, support, kindness, aligned goals, companionship, communication, respect, yes. We have all of those 1000 percent. I think our love is different in that we have that 1000 percent - to the point we can also give one another ample freedom to continue to grow and explore as individuals while upholding our union as the priority. Since we have been ethically non-monogamous on and off for 18 years, I think the freedom we give one another would have some clutching their pearls. And we have a closeness that would have some shaking their heads.
HOW DO YOU CELEBRATE YOUR LOVE?
SISSY We are best friends. We spend nearly every second together when possible because we really enjoy being around each other all the time. Just going out for coffee is a celebration of our love. Seeing each other grow and succeed and experience joy is a celebration. Being there to support each other is a celebration. We also travel to celebrate but we say “we’re the ace card” - we can go high or low. A trip to Florence Italy or doom scrolling next to each other at a coffee shop in Echo Park, it’s all as joyful as a rom com musical hat montage for us.
HOW DO YOU SHOW OTHERS YOU LOVE THEM?
SISSY I’m bad at this. Unless I feel completely safe, I tend to withhold showing love. I think it’s good that I’m working on being more vulnerable, leaning into feeling unsafe so I can heal , find my own footing, and be capable of receiving love and giving love more fearlessly and unconditionally.
HOW HAS YOUR PERSPECTIVE OF THE MEANING OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHANGED OVER TIME?
SISSY I no longer care to enforce my will or impose my views on others. I think being more accepting of other people’s lifestyles and points of view is loving. If that gives me the clarity to see when someone is actually self destructive then I could step up and help them if I can. If they would even want or accept my help. I think that’s the case with family. Similarly, in romantic love, giving your partner a lot of freedom to express and explore and just be a rock for them is also loving.
EDDIE When I was younger I didn't know myself well to be myself. You can't communicate a truth when you don't know what your truth is. As I've aged I've become more fearless. I'm no longer apologetic for my needs so it's easier to communicate everything that I am to my partner.
HOW DO YOU CULTIVATE LOVE FOR YOURSELF THROUGH CREATIVE OUTLETS?
SISSY By listening to my intuition and trusting the universe when I feel a calling to pursue something that will align with my spirit and hopefully will be helpful or inspiring to others . And by letting go of things I’ve outgrown, admitting when something is no longer right for me, and reflecting what I could have done better. And doing better next time.
I think writing the newsletter on Substack has evolved into a labor of love . What started with the intention of monetizing by making “passive income” (which I’ve said is about as passive as a Rube Goldberg machine) has become a space for what a friend described as “radical vulnerability”. There is no goal I’m trying to reach other than a form of self expression that feels more honest. Something I can approach with less desperation than making image-based or shopping-based content. It feels like I’m being reborn in a way, like I’m disappearing in a way that feels like a relief and staring new in a purer form. I feel it’s out of love to readers who might need to hear about my experiences with my career, emotional health, feelings around aging and my marriage as well as topics around clothing, shopping and personal style. And to have the support of a love who champions any new medium through which I will become a more honest version of myself and any new endeavor that lights me up inside is everything.
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Mimi Nguyen is a content creator based in New York. We've always appreciated her style, which beautifully combines understated luxury and elevated wardrobe essentials, accented with intriguing elements like a fun pump / sock combo, romantic details, or a bold red lip.
HOW DO YOU CULTIVATE LOVE FOR YOURSELF THROUGH YOUR CREATIVE OUTLETS?
I cultivate the love for myself by channeling my creativity into personal projects, allowing me to invest more time and energy in my own well-being. This year marks a deliberate shift towards prioritizing myself—a choice often misconstrued as selfishness, but one rooted in the realization that I've consistently directed my energy towards external commitments in recent years.This year, I am embracing a more self-focused approach, centering my time and efforts on my personal aspirations. It's a conscious decision to redirect the energy I've generously given to others, various projects, and work, towards my own goals. Grateful that my creative pursuits have evolved into a full-time career, I now find so much fulfillment in working for myself rather than others. I eagerly anticipate the promising journey ahead and the unfolding of new opportunities in the future!
HOW DO YOU CELEBRATE LOVE?
I celebrate love whether it’s platonic, familial, or romantic by spending quality time together. For my friendships, family, and moments with Kelvin (my husband), the emphasis is not on extravagant or meticulously planned activities. Instead, the simple act of dedicating one-on-one time holds enough significance for me. Whether it's sharing laughter together, engaging in heartfelt conversations, or just enjoying each other's company, these moments become a meaningful celebration of the connections and love that brings me joy.
HOW IS THIS DIFFERENT TO NORMAL OR POPULAR CULTURAL IDEAS OF LOVE?
The way I celebrate love differs from what's often portrayed in normal expectations or popular cultural ideas. In a digital age where many showcase seemingly perfect relationships online, my approach is more private and less overt. I don't feel the need to prove anything or conform to the trend of projecting idealized images of love.Rather than broadcasting my personal relationships, I find value in the subtleties and genuine moments shared privately. My love isn't defined by public displays or grand gestures; it thrives in the authenticity of intimate connections and meaningful one-on-one experiences. In a world where external validation is often sought, I take comfort in the depth and sincerity of my personal connections, which may not be as evident to others but hold significance in my life.